Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you. –Deuteronomy 31:6
A Love Junkie, that’s what I was. I ran from relationship to relationship, and from marriage to marriage hoping that the next “hit” would fix my loneliness. I got married at 16 and had a sweet baby boy (10 months later) who never deserved to go down a road of turmoil and abuse with me. After the divorce of my first marriage, I became even more desperate. I was18 with a child in tow. I was afraid that no one would love me, that no one would love my son. I needed to find security so I ran to the first person who’d have me. I went straight from one abusive marriage to another violently explosive marriage (mutually violent, I might add) all because I was afraid of being alone. That marriage ended and I had another sweet baby boy that didn’t deserve a broken home or turmoil either.
The dismal thought of being alone causes some of us to make desperate irrational decisions, does it not? We see women and men bounce around from relationship to relationship believing wholeheartedly that “they have just not found the right one yet”. The human soul cries out for companionship, it’s the way God created us. God created man and saw that there wasn’t a suitable helper for him. His response? It’s not good. So He made Adam a companion, a friend, a lover, someone to do life with. And isn’t that what we are all looking for?
It breaks my heart to see so many women throw themselves out there so desperately. They are seeking to be loved; longing to find someone to share their lives with. Sad broken women going from one fix to the next hoping that this “hit” will be the one that fixes them. I used to be that broken woman. I was so afraid of being alone that I would do anything to make someone stay. Yes, I’ve been both single and alone AND I’ve been married and alone too.
The responsibility of meeting all of our needs and making us completely happy should never be placed on another person. It’s an impossible task! Are there good godly marriages? Absolutely, but even those aren’t perfect. Even those won’t fulfill all of our needs. Every position in life, married or single, still leaves a wide open hole that only God can fill. God didn’t create us to be whole without Him. Did He create marriage? Of course, but He didn’t create marriage and relationships as replacements for a relationship with Him.
Somewhere after my second divorce, I stopped the insanity. I stopped reaching for another person to make me whole and reached for God alone. I had honestly come to a place of contentment. A place where I was NOT lonely because I had the fullness of God in my life. I cannot express in words the security I found in Him. Even to this day, I can’t make sense of how God provided for me and my children. Month after month I had more than enough financially. God sent men from church to pour godly wisdom into my sons. God has given me incredible earthly parents who have been there for me and my sons in every season of our lives. God sent the boys a compassionate uncle who’s loved them like his own. God surrounded me with people that He allowed to be His hands and feet to take care of us. That’s the goodness of God.
I’m not an exception, I’m a living testament to the rule of God’s goodness. When we are in covenant with Him, it’s His job and responsibility to take care of all of our needs. Sitting with Him morning after morning fills a void in our souls and we’re never alone. He’s created a body of believers, the church, to be His hands and feet and to be our family. There is NEVER a moment that we are alone. NEVER a moment when God’s not there. NEVER a moment when He doesn’t meet every need deep inside or send someone to help us when we trust Him. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
YOUR KOFFEE WITH THE KING:
Spend the next 20 to 30 minutes letting God speak to you. You’ve got to lay as part of your foundation the truth that God has and never will abandon you. He’s ALWAYS been there. Listen to today’s song and give God permission to speak His words of love and security to you. He’ll speak, but you have to believe what He says. Don’t listen to the voice of the enemy any longer that says you’re alone and no one cares. God cares! Let Him tell you…
Over the next week, study the following passages to increase your knowledge and build your faith that God is always with you so that you can stand secure and confident in Him.
Day 2: Read and meditate on Joshua 1:5
Day 3: Read and mediate on John 14:18
Day 4: Read and mediate on John 16:32
Day 5: Read and mediate on Isaiah 41:10