For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. John 3:16

This is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent. John 17:3

  • Beth Moore Bible Study? Check.
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  • Journal? Check.
  • Bible Dictionary? Check.
  • Colored Pens & Pencils? Check.
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  • Cup of Coffee? Check.
  • Ticked all of the boxes on the “What God Expects From Me List”?  Check.

As I ran my finger over the gold embellished edges of my worn bible, I began to make my plan for the day’s time with God.  First I’ll study… “Melonie,” I heard God say, “I don’t want you to read anything this morning, but sit still before Me.”  Well, okay, I guess I will just pray then, I thought.  So I began to pray out loud.  It was a little awkward at first, because I couldn’t understand why He’d tell me not to study but sit still.  My morning times had always consisted of studying and highlighting scripture.  But I pressed on and continued praying, even though I didn’t really feel anything.  The more awkward silence I heard, the louder I prayed. And just when I was about to bring down the fire from heaven, [insert sarcasm] I saw Jesus sitting on the arm of the couch beside me.  (Spiritually speaking of course.)  He said, “Why are you yelling at me? I’m right here.  What do you want to talk about?” “Um, I, uh, don’t really know,” I jabbered.  I’d never really thought of prayer like that before.  My times with God had always consisted of cramming scripture and bible study for hours and of course, asking Him to work out some things for me.  I had never sat still before and chit-chatted but I had a feeling God was about to develop something new in me.  He was about to birth an intimate friendship and the vision for Koffee with the King.

I can honestly say that it was a bit of a struggle not to pull in tons of reading the first several months He had me sit still.  Oh, I still studied the Word, but not during these morning times with God.  One particular day, I reached over to pick up the bible because I had some seriously conflicting and guilty feelings about not reading.  The Holy Spirit said, “You reach for the scriptures, but the scriptures point you to Me, and I am here with you.”  Now was He saying that the bible was not important anymore?  No!  He was teaching me to make His Presence my priority every morning; to sit still and enjoy waking up with Him while getting to know Him.

cozy coffee nookJust as the ambiance of the radiant morning sun bursts through the wall of windows in my office filling my eyes with light, He awakens my soul with His Presence morning after morning.  Warm cup of coffee in hand, snuggled down and rocking in my grandpa’s old green chair, He unravels the mysteries of His goodness before me.  Sip by sip, word by word I’m getting to know Him more each day, and my love grows deeper, stronger.  He is my best friend and this has been His desire for me all along.  Just like in the garden, before sin, He walked and talked with man.  They were friends.  That’s what He wants from us, a friendship.  Jesus said in John 15:13, “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”  That’s what He did for us, laid His life down so that we could be reunited with God if we choose to be.


bigstock-beautiful-girl-riding-bicycle--12155192what does god want

What does God want from you?   Intimacy, a close friendship, quality time together.  You will be compelled by your love for Him to make the right choices in life once you really get to know Him.  The more you know Him, the more you’ll love Him.  God is not seeking religiously devout people, He’s seeking people after His own heart.  People who take the time to get to know Him, spend quality time with Him and then are changed from the inside out because of His love and mercy.  Are you ready to know God like that?  Are you ready to be friends with God like this?  Are you ready to live your life from this perspective?  You will be changed forever.  This is eternal life.  It starts now, not later in heaven, but right now.



God desires to speak to you today.  He has paid such a high price to be reconciled with you, to have a close friendship with you.  He doesn’t desire religious acts to be close, He simply wants a friend who’s heart desires closeness with Him.  Every good thing you will ever do should be because of your love for Him, not religious obligation.  Take some time today to get to know Him better than you already do. Spend the next 20 or so minutes talking to Him and listening as He shares His heart and love for you.  



Spend some time this week seeing what the Word of God says about eternal life.  John 17:3 says that eternal life is knowing God and Jesus.  That eternal life brings us into fellowship with God, it brings us into intimate friendship with Him.  This, my friends, is life changing!

Day 2:   Read and meditate on John 15:15

Day 3:  Read and mediate on John 6:26-27

Day 4:  Read and mediate on John 10:27-29

Day 5:  Read and mediate on 1 John 2:24-26




Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.  –Deuteronomy 31:6


A Love Junkie, that’s what I was.  I ran from relationship to relationship, and from marriage to marriage hoping that the next “hit” would fix my loneliness.  I got married at 16 and had a sweet baby boy (10 months later) who never deserved to go down a road of turmoil and abuse with me.  After the divorce of my first marriage, I became even more desperate.  I was18 with a child in tow.  I was afraid that no one would love me, that no one would love my son.  I needed to find security so I ran to the first person who’d have me.  I went straight from one abusive marriage to another violently explosive marriage (mutually violent, I might add) all because I was afraid of being alone.  That marriage ended and I had another sweet baby boy that didn’t deserve a broken home or turmoil either.

The dismal thought of being alone causes some of us to make desperate irrational decisions, does it not?  We see women and men bounce around from relationship to relationship believing wholeheartedly that “they have just not found the right one yet”.  The human soul cries out for companionship, it’s the way God created us.  God created man and saw that there wasn’t a suitable helper for him. His response?  It’s not good.  So He made Adam a companion, a friend, a lover, someone to do life with.  And isn’t that what we are all looking for?

It breaks my heart to see so many women throw themselves out there so desperately. They are seeking to be loved; longing to find someone to share their lives with.  Sad broken women going from one fix to the next hoping that this “hit” will be the one that fixes them.  I used to be that broken woman.  I was so afraid of being alone that I would do anything to make someone stay.  Yes, I’ve been both single and alone AND I’ve been married and alone too.

The responsibility of meeting all of our needs and making us completely happy should never be placed on another person.  It’s an impossible task!  Are there good godly marriages?  Absolutely, but even those aren’t perfect.  Even those won’t fulfill all of our needs.  Every position in life, married or single, still leaves a wide open hole that only God can fill.  God didn’t create us to be whole without Him.  Did He create marriage?  Of course, but He didn’t create marriage and relationships as replacements for a relationship with Him.

bigstock-Grunge-Styled-Interior-12565091you are not aloneSomewhere after my second divorce, I stopped the insanity.  I stopped reaching for another person to make me whole and reached for God alone.  I had honestly come to a place of contentment.  A place where I was NOT lonely because I had the fullness of God in my life.  I cannot express in words the security I found in Him.  Even to this day, I can’t make sense of how God provided for me and my children.  Month after month I had more than enough financially.  God sent men from church to pour godly wisdom into my sons.  God has given me incredible earthly parents who have been there for me and my sons in every season of our lives.  God sent the boys a compassionate uncle who’s loved them like his own.  God surrounded me with people that He allowed to be His hands and feet to take care of us.  That’s the goodness of God.

I’m not an exception, I’m a living testament to the rule of God’s goodness.  When we are in covenant with Him, it’s His job and responsibility to take care of all of our needs.  Sitting with Him morning after morning fills a void in our souls and we’re never alone.  He’s created a body of believers, the church, to be His hands and feet and to be our family.  There is NEVER a moment that we are alone.  NEVER a moment when God’s not there.  NEVER a moment when He doesn’t meet every need deep inside or send someone to help us when we trust Him.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE!



Spend the next 20 to 30 minutes letting God speak to you.  You’ve got to lay as part of your foundation the truth that God has and never will abandon you.  He’s ALWAYS been there.  Listen to today’s song and give God permission to speak His words of love and security to you.  He’ll speak, but you have to believe what He says.  Don’t listen to the voice of the enemy any longer that says you’re alone and no one cares.  God cares!  Let Him tell you…



Over the next week, study the following passages to increase your knowledge and build your faith that God is always with you so that you can stand secure and confident in Him.

Day 2:   Read and meditate on Joshua 1:5

Day 3:  Read and mediate on John 14:18 

Day 4:  Read and mediate on John 16:32

Day 5:  Read and mediate on Isaiah 41:10